The Climb

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  • The Seat Wasn’t the Test. I Was.

    I don’t drive. Not because I can’t, but because I choose to walk. I choose to see the city. I choose to move through it, not hide from it. And when the distance stretches too far, I step onto the Metro.

    But there’s a different Los Angeles that lives after 11:30 PM.

    That’s the one I deal with.

    Last night, I got on the train like I always do. Same rhythm. Same movement. Same seat I aim for, back against the wall, eyes forward, control of the environment.

    Another man moved toward it at the same time.
    I stepped back.

    “Go ahead, my brotha.”

    Simple. Respectful. Done.

    But it didn’t end there.

    “I’m not your brother.”

    Not just words. Tone. Edge. Energy. The kind that’s looking for something.

    Right there, that’s the moment most men fail.

    Not because they’re weak.
    Because they’re wired wrong in that moment.

    See, anger doesn’t ask for permission. It shows up ready. And if you’ve been carrying pressure, real pressure, work, money, responsibility, rebuilding your life… it doesn’t take much to give that anger a target.

    And for a second… I wanted it.

    Not the seat.
    The moment.

    I wanted him to say one more thing.
    Make one wrong move.
    Give me a reason.

    Because I already made the decision in my head what I would do to him.

    That’s the truth nobody likes to say out loud.

    But here’s the part that matters:

    I didn’t move.

    I sat down.
    Hands in my pockets.
    Mind racing.
    Body ready.

    And instead of reacting…

    I prayed.

    Not some clean, polished prayer. Not something you’d say in church.

    No.

    I prayed that he would keep his mouth shut…
    and get off that train.

    Because I knew something he didn’t:

    This wasn’t about him.

    This was about everything I’m building right now.

    My family.
    My reset.
    My future.

    One bad decision in a moment like that and everything I’m trying to fix gets set on fire.

    A record.
    A charge.
    A headline nobody reads past.
    A story that doesn’t care about context.

    All over a man who doesn’t even know me.

    That’s when it hit me:

    The seat was never the test.

    I was.

    And that’s the difference between a man who reacts…
    and a man who leads his life.

    Because leadership isn’t just what you do at work.
    It’s what you do when nobody’s watching…
    when everything in you is telling you to go the other way.

    I see these situations every day.

    Different faces. Same energy.
    Broken men looking for somewhere to land their chaos.

    And the truth is they’re dangerous.

    But not in the way people think.

    They’re dangerous because if you’re not disciplined,
    they can pull you out of your purpose in seconds.

    That’s the trap.

    You don’t lose your life in one big decision.
    You lose it in one small, emotional one.

    So I made mine.

    I chose to go home.

    Because that’s the mission.

    Not to prove a point.
    Not to win a moment.
    Not to show who’s tougher.

    Just to walk through my door…
    and be there for the people who actually matter.

    Every night.

    That’s the climb.

    And some nights, it’s not about moving forward.

    It’s about not falling back.

    The Goal was to get Home!

  • Starting Over Without Permission

    Have you ever hit a point where everything you thought was lined up just wasn’t?

    Not broken all at once. Not some dramatic collapse. Just piece by piece, things stop going the way you expected, and now you’re standing there trying to figure out what’s real and what isn’t.

    That’s where this started.

    No announcement. No clean reset. No moment where it all made sense and I stepped into something new with confidence.

    This one started with pressure.

    The kind that sits on your chest when the numbers don’t line up, when the plan you trusted doesn’t come through, when people are depending on you and you’re still trying to figure out your next move.

    And here’s the truth.

    Nobody gives you permission to start over.

    Not your job. Not your past. Not your mistakes. If you wait for everything to feel right, you’ll wait too long.

    So I moved.

    Not because I had clarity. Not because I felt ready. I moved because standing still started to feel worse than making the wrong move.

    That’s a place people don’t talk about.

    Starting over is not clean.

    It’s waking up with doubt and still getting up.
    It’s making decisions without having all the answers.
    It’s realizing nobody is coming to fix it for you.

    That part will humble you.

    There’s a version of me that thought starting over would feel like freedom. Like everything would open up and fall into place.

    It doesn’t.

    It costs your pride.
    It costs your comfort.
    It costs the picture you had in your head of how life was supposed to look.

    And if you’re not careful, it can cost your belief in yourself.

    That’s the real fight.

    Because this is where people go back.
    Back to what’s familiar.
    Back to what was already breaking them.
    Back to something just because it feels safe.

    I’m not doing that.

    I’ve come too far to pretend this is the end of anything.

    This is a reset.

    And resets will strip you down. They force you to see what’s real without the titles, without the comfort, without the illusion that you’re in control of everything.

    But if you stay in it, something changes.

    You stop looking for approval.
    You stop explaining yourself.
    You stop asking if it’s the right time.

    You just move.

    And every move starts to rebuild something inside you that nothing external can give you.

    Discipline.
    Clarity.
    Ownership.

    That’s where I am.

    Not at the finish line. Not even close.

    But I’m moving with intention. I’m not waiting. I’m not asking.

    I’m just showing up and doing the work.

    Because starting over isn’t about circumstances.

    It’s about decision.

    And I’ve already made mine.

    Nobody gave me permission. I moved anyway.

  • I Was Trained to Understand People… Then Life Tested Me

    I didn’t just learn people from books.
    I studied them.
    I sat in classrooms learning psychology.
    I studied ministry.
    I was taught how people think, how they break, how they heal, how they carry pain, how they hide it.
    I learned how to listen.
    How to guide.
    How to be present for someone else.
    On paper, I was prepared.
    Then life looked at me and said,
    “Let’s see if you really understand any of that.”
    Because theory doesn’t mean nothing under pressure
    There’s a difference between understanding pain…
    and living in it.
    A real difference.
    You can read about trauma.
    You can study behavior.
    You can talk about leadership, accountability, and growth.
    But when you’re sitting in a place where time slows down and life feels like it’s standing still…
    All that knowledge gets tested.
    Not in a classroom.
    In reality.
    And reality doesn’t care what degree you got.
    Theory sounds good… until pressure shows up.
    I had to learn myself all over again
    Nobody talks about this part.
    Relearning yourself.
    Stripping down everything you thought you knew and asking:
    Who am I… really?
    Not who I say I am.
    Not who I was.
    Not who I want people to think I am.
    Who am I when nobody’s watching?
    When there’s no applause?
    When there’s no titles?
    That’s where the real work starts.
    You can’t lead others if you haven’t faced yourself.
    Ministry taught me to care. Psychology taught me to understand. Life taught me to endure.
    Ministry told me:
    Be there for people.
    Psychology told me:
    Understand why they are the way they are.
    Life told me:
    Not everybody changes.
    Not everybody listens.
    Not everybody wants help.
    And that right there will humble you quick.
    Because you realize something real:
    You can’t save everybody.
    But you can stay solid.
    Leadership isn’t what I thought it was
    I used to think leadership was about direction.
    Tell people what to do.
    Make decisions.
    Hold people accountable.
    That’s part of it.
    But real leadership?
    It’s carrying weight nobody sees.
    It’s staying disciplined when nobody’s checking you.
    It’s holding a standard when it would be easier to let it slide.
    And it’s understanding people…
    without letting that understanding turn into excuses.
    That balance right there?
    That’s the work.
    Standards matter more when it’s hard to hold them.
    And here’s the part nobody claps for
    You can do everything right…
    And still feel heavy.
    Still feel tired.
    Still question things.
    Still carry moments that don’t leave you.
    That doesn’t make you weak.
    That makes you honest.
    I’m not perfect. I’m present.
    I don’t write this because I got it all figured out.
    I write this because I’m still in it.
    Still learning.
    Still adjusting.
    Still holding myself accountable.
    Every single day.
    This is what I know now
    I wasn’t just trained to understand people.
    I was put in a position where I had to understand myself.
    And that right there…
    That’s a different level of truth.
    The Climb isn’t about pretending you made it.
    It’s about being honest about what it takes to keep going.

  • 55 Before Clock-In  Part One

    Some birthdays are loud.
    Mine started with a walk.
    No crowd. No party. No grand production. Just me, turning 55, stepping out into my neighborhood before the workday could put its hands on me. Before the shift. Before the pressure. Before the world started asking for something.
    I wanted the morning for myself.
    That was the first good decision of the day.
    I woke up around eight in the morning on my birthday, and one of the first things I got was a phone call from my sister wishing me happy birthday. My wife had already texted me at midnight while I was coming off my shift, and my nephew reached out too. That kind of love sits different when you are old enough to know that another year is not something to take lightly.
    Fifty-five.
    That number means something to me.
    Not because it sounds old. Not because it sounds young. But because I know what it took to get here. I know what I have carried. I know what I have survived. I know how many moments in life could have gone another way. So when I say I am grateful to be here, I mean that for real.
    I did not take the day off. I still had to go to work later. But I also knew I did not want to spend the beginning of my birthday stuck inside a house. I did not want to wake up and go straight into routine like this day was just another square on the calendar.
    So I went outside and walked my neighborhood.
    I let the morning open up around me.
    I walked the sidewalks. I made my way through the park. I looked at the trees, the streets, the sunlight, the stillness, the ordinary places that stop being ordinary when you slow down long enough to actually see them. I worked out a little. I kept moving. I smoked a little and let myself settle into the moment.
    Not to run from anything.
    Just to enjoy being there.
    That is one thing I have come to respect more as I get older. Peace does not always arrive as some big life-changing breakthrough. Sometimes peace is simple. Sometimes it is just a man walking through his own neighborhood on his birthday with enough time to think, breathe, remember, and feel his life while he is living it.
    That was this morning.
    And my thoughts were good.
    Honest. Clear. Calm.
    After the walk and after the park, I went and got McDonald’s breakfast. And I am not even about to lie — it felt good. Real good. It was one of those childhood moments that reaches up and taps you on the shoulder out of nowhere. A little orange juice. A couple of breakfast sandwiches. Nothing fancy. Nothing deep. Just a simple moment that reminded me that not everything meaningful in life has to be serious.
    Sometimes joy is familiar.
    Sometimes joy is cheap breakfast and memory.
    Sometimes joy is letting yourself enjoy something old without feeling like you have to outgrow it.


    At 55, I can still appreciate that.
    And then, like the morning wanted to put one more stamp on the day, I saw a beautiful creamy white Rolls-Royce on my way home. Looked like a 1971 to me. Clean. Smooth. Timeless. The kind of car that does not scream for attention because it already knows what it is.
    That car stayed with me.
    Maybe because I admire craftsmanship. Maybe because I admire presence. Maybe because some things carry their weight without ever needing to explain themselves. Whatever it was, it felt right for the morning. Like one more unexpected gift from a birthday that had already started speaking to me in quiet ways.
    When I look back on this morning, what stands out most is not one single thing. It is the whole feeling of it.
    The phone call from my sister.
    The midnight text from my wife.
    The message from my nephew.
    The neighborhood.
    The park.
    The sunlight.
    The smokes
    The breakfast.
    The Rolls-Royce.
    The fact that I am 55 years old and still able to walk through my life with enough awareness to feel it.
    That is a blessing.
    This morning was not flashy. It was not expensive. It was not built for social media. It was not some polished celebration designed to impress other people.
    It was mine.
    And maybe that is why it felt so rich.
    Because sometimes the best part of life is not found in big events. Sometimes it is right there in your own streets. Your own thoughts. Your own memories. Your own quiet celebration before the rest of the day begins.
    That is how 55 started for me.
    Not in a rush. Not in noise. Not under pressure.
    But in gratitude.
    And that is one hell of a way to begin.
    Part One ends here.
    By the time the sun goes down, the day will have more to say.


    Part Two: What happens when a birthday morning full of peace runs straight into the reality of a work shift?
    Social teaser
    I turned 55 today and before work ever got hold of me, I gave the morning to myself. A walk through my neighborhood. A little time in the park. A little breakfast. A little reflection. And one beautiful reminder that life is still here.

    Life Only Gets Better!

  • You’re Not Behind. You’re Under-Leveraged

    What could you do more of?

    There’s a point where working hard stops being enough.
    Not because effort doesn’t matter.
    But because effort, by itself, doesn’t always translate into progress you can see, measure, or prove.
    I’ve had to face that.
    I’m not behind.
    I’m just not fully leveraging what I’m already doing.
    I Do the Work
    I show up.
    I lead.
    I solve problems.
    I build systems.
    Every day there’s something that needs to be fixed, improved, or pushed forward, and I take that seriously.
    But here’s the truth most people don’t say out loud:
    Doing the work isn’t always the same as showing the work.
    And if it’s not visible, it doesn’t always count the way it should.
    Execution Has to Be Seen
    There’s a difference between knowing you’re effective and being able to prove it.
    You can feel like you’re making progress,
    but if nobody can see it, measure it, or understand it…
    it gets lost.
    That’s where I had to shift my thinking.
    It’s not enough to:
    Fix the problem
    Improve the process
    Get the result
    You have to document it, track it, and show it.
    Before and after.
    Problem and solution.
    Breakdown and correction.
    That’s what turns work into impact.
    Results Speak Louder Than Effort
    Effort is personal.
    Results are visible.
    Anyone can say they’re working hard.
    Not everyone can show what their work actually produced.
    And in the real world, especially in leadership, that difference matters.
    Because decisions get made based on what can be seen, not just what’s being done quietly in the background.
    I Had to Check Myself
    If I’m being honest, there are areas where I know I can push harder.
    Not in effort, but in standards.
    Where am I tolerating something I should be fixing?
    Where am I letting something slide that doesn’t meet the level I expect?
    Where am I choosing comfort instead of confrontation?
    That’s where growth actually lives.
    Not in doing more.
    But in tightening what already exists.
    Build It So It Lasts
    Another shift I’ve had to make is this:
    Stop solving the same problem twice.
    If something breaks, fix it.
    But then build something so it doesn’t break again.
    A process.
    A checklist.
    A system.
    Something that holds the standard even when I’m not there.
    Because leadership isn’t just about fixing problems.
    It’s about building environments where problems don’t repeat.
    Say It With Clarity
    There’s also a responsibility in how you speak.
    Not guessing.
    Not softening.
    Not second-guessing what you already know works.
    Clarity matters.
    Because people don’t follow uncertainty.
    They follow direction.
    Final Thought
    I’m not behind.
    I’m just not done sharpening what I already have.
    More visibility.
    More structure.
    More accountability.
    Less noise.
    Less guessing.
    Less wasted motion.
    Because at the end of the day, it’s not about doing more.
    It’s about making what you do count every time.

  • Christmas on a Budget

    I’ve never been the kind of man who loves crowds.
    Too many people. Too many strangers. Too much noise. I usually feel boxed in, looking for space to breathe.
    But the Fashion District has always been the exception.
    Walking those alleys, the tight pathways, the voices overlapping, the movement in every direction I don’t feel trapped. I feel grounded. And I know exactly why.
    That’s something my mama would have done without hesitation.
    She would’ve moved through those crowds like water, calm, unbothered, purposeful. Watching her do that when I was younger taught me something about confidence before I had language for it. So when I walk there now, I’m not uncomfortable. I’m connected. It feels like inherited memory.
    This Christmas season was different.
    The budget was tight. No pretending otherwise.
    Marshalls. Discount racks. Intentional choices. A two-gift minimum per family and like most families doing their best, we went a little over.
    Still, with very little, we got a lot done.
    That’s the Climb.
    What made this weekend unforgettable wasn’t what we bought  it was how we moved.
    I found myself watching my wife as she maneuvered through the crowd effortlessly, confidently, completely at home. She weaved through people with grace, instinctively knowing when to pause, when to step forward, when to speak, when to smile. There was something beautiful about seeing her in her element. Calm in the chaos. Certain in motion.
    And then there was our son Fabian.
    I was walking behind him when I noticed the back of his shirt.
    The words stopped me in my tracks.
    “Our brown skin does not limit us, but empower us for greatness.”
    I started filming him without thinking.
    Because in that moment, I felt something rise in me pride, inspiration, confirmation. I was watching a young man who doesn’t just talk about identity, but wears it with intention. He represents his people without anger, without apology, without fear. Mexican pride expressed through dignity, awareness, and self-respect.
    He’s fashion-conscious, yes, but more than that, he’s message-conscious. He understands that how you show up in the world matters.
    Walking behind him, camera rolling, I didn’t feel like I was documenting a moment. I felt like I was witnessing purpose in motion.
    This is a young man bound for greatness not because of what he will become, but because of who he already is.
    With Fabian and his husband Freddie, our son Kai, and my wife Lizette, we moved through the Fashion District together. We laughed. We talked. We took our time. We ate lunch together one of those quiet moments that doesn’t announce its importance, but absolutely carries it.
    I took pictures. Real ones. The kind that hold emotion long after the day ends.
    And as a father, something settled deeply in me.
    I was present.
    Fully present.
    That matters more now than ever. Especially after loss. Especially after learning how fragile time really is. Walking with my family, watching my sons move through the world with confidence and authenticity that’s sacred ground.
    And somewhere in the middle of that joy, memory showed up.
    I thought about my mama.
    I thought about my sister Tracy.
    I remembered shopping with my mother when I was younger the joy on her face, the way she loved being with her family. I wish I’d had more of that time. More walks. More moments.
    This weekend brought them close again. Not through pain, but through presence.
    This season has been emotional.
    Joyful. Heavy. Beautiful.
    Sometimes the money is low.
    Sometimes the world feels overwhelming.
    Sometimes grief and gratitude walk side by side.
    But by the grace of God by mercy we keep climbing.
    We showed up.
    We stayed together.
    We honored where we come from.
    We lived fully in the moment.
    And we made Christmas happen.
    Not loud.
    Not perfect.
    But powerful.


    That’s the Climb.

  • Why I’m Not Superstitious

    Are you superstitious?

    There are people who won’t say certain things out loud.
    People who knock on wood.
    People who believe if something is going too well, something bad must be coming.
    I’ve never lived like that.
    I’m not superstitious.
    Not because I think I have everything figured out.
    But because I believe something else entirely.
    I believe in responsibility.
    I Don’t Believe in Luck
    When something goes right in my life, I don’t call it luck.
    I look at what led to it.
    The early mornings.
    The late nights.
    The conversations.
    The decisions nobody saw.
    The standards I chose to hold when it would have been easier not to.
    That’s where outcomes come from.
    And when something goes wrong, I don’t say I was unlucky.
    I ask myself a harder question.
    What did I miss?
    Because something was missed.
    Something could have been done better.
    Something could have been tighter.
    Something could have been handled differently.
    That’s not always easy to accept.
    But it’s honest.
    Superstition Gives Away Control
    Superstition sounds harmless.
    But it does something dangerous.
    It shifts responsibility away from you.
    If things happen because of luck, then they can also fall apart because of bad luck.
    If something can be “jinxed,” then you’re not fully in control of your outcomes.
    I don’t believe that.
    Not because I think I control everything.
    But because I believe I’m responsible for how I prepare, how I respond, and how I recover.
    That’s where control lives.
    I Believe in Systems
    I don’t look for signs.
    I look for patterns.
    I look at what’s working.
    I look at what’s not.
    I adjust. I tighten. I refine.
    Not once.
    But consistently.
    Because real progress isn’t random.
    It’s built.
    Through discipline.
    Through repetition.
    Through standards that don’t move just because the day gets hard.
    Confidence Isn’t Luck
    Confidence doesn’t come from hoping things go your way.
    It comes from knowing you’ve done the work.
    It comes from walking into a situation knowing you prepared for it.
    Knowing you didn’t cut corners.
    Knowing you showed up when it mattered.
    That kind of confidence doesn’t need superstition.
    It stands on its own.
    Final Thought
    I’m not superstitious.
    I don’t believe in luck, jinxes, or signs.
    I believe in what I do every day.
    I believe in the standards I hold.
    I believe in taking responsibility when things go wrong.
    Because at the end of the day, the life you build isn’t decided by chance.
    It’s decided by what you’re willing to carry, consistently.

  • The Weekend Reset

    Monday morning always comes fast.
    But this morning feels different.
    Because this weekend was one of those weekends that reminds me why we work so hard in the first place.
    During the week, life moves fast.
    Monday through Friday it’s meetings, decisions, problems to solve, people to support, standards to maintain. The responsibility never really shuts off.
    Leadership is heavy.
    But the weekend… the weekend is where life breathes again.
    My wife and I have something we call Spontaneous Saturday.
    No big plan.
    No strict schedule.
    Just us.
    We get up, decide where we want to go, grab a drink, eat something good, talk, laugh, and enjoy each other’s company. No pressure. No rush. Just time.
    Time together.
    And that matters more than people realize.
    Because if you don’t intentionally protect time with the person you love, the world will gladly take every minute you have.
    Saturday was exactly that.
    Good food.
    Good drinks.
    Good conversation.
    Just the two of us enjoying the moment.
    Then Sunday came, and that’s when the house filled up.
    Sunday is family day.
    The games come out.
    The food starts cooking.
    People start talking trash before the game even starts.
    UNO on the table.
    Laughing across the room.
    Everyone arguing about who skipped who and who forgot to say “UNO.”
    And in those moments, nothing else matters.
    Not work.
    Not stress.
    Not the responsibilities waiting on Monday morning.
    Just family.
    Just laughter.
    Just life happening in the living room.
    Moments like that are easy to overlook, but they are the real foundation of everything we build.
    Because leadership isn’t just about what you do at work.
    It’s about the life you build around it.
    The people who sit at your table.
    The person who walks beside you through the years.
    The memories that fill your home long after the workday is done.
    This weekend reminded me of something simple but important:
    Work matters.
    But who you come home to matters more.
    And when Monday comes around again, you carry those moments with you.
    They give you energy.
    They give you purpose.
    They remind you what you’re working for.
    And that makes all the difference.


    The Climb
    Real life. Real work. Real people.


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  • The Weight of the Invisible

    I spent another day managing the “invisible.”
    In my world, if you do your job perfectly, you are a ghost. No one thanks the man who ensured the air was breathable or the surfaces were sterile. They only notice when the system fails. I’ve spent decades mastering the logistics of the background, making sure the stage is set so others can play the lead.
    But lately, when I step out onto the balcony and the smell of a good cigar cuts through the LA humidity, I realize I’m tired of being a ghost in my own story.
    “The Climb” isn’t about the promotion or the title. I’ve had those. I’ve managed the budgets and the bodies. The real climb is the transition from being a manager of things to a steward of a legacy.
    We spend the first half of our lives building walls to keep the chaos out. We buy the software, we plan the Vegas trips, we optimize the “operational efficiencies” of our households until they feel like well-oiled machines. But a machine doesn’t have a soul. A machine can’t feel the grit of the struggle or the quiet satisfaction of a mic drop after a hard-won truth.
    At 54, the view changes. You stop looking at the top of the mountain and start looking at the boots you’re wearing. They aren’t name-brand, and they aren’t flashy. They’re worn. They’ve got miles of hospital corridors and city trails on them. And that’s the Iron Standard. It’s not about the gold at the end; it’s about the iron in your spine that keeps you upright when the world expects you to just fade into the background.
    I’m building Iron Standard Publishing not because the world needs another book, but because I need to prove that the man behind the clipboard has a voice that can shake the room.
    I’m done managing the “invisible.” I’m ready to be seen.

    “The Steward, Still Rising”

  • One Hundred Days In

    The first thing I learned in my first hundred days is that titles don’t do the work. People do.
    When I walked into this role, I didn’t come in loud. I came in listening. Watching. Feeling the pulse of a place that never really sleeps. A hospital doesn’t pause for transitions. It doesn’t care that you’re new. Patients still need rooms. Staff still need support. The work still has to be done, cleanly and correctly, every single time.
    The early days were about learning the ground. Understanding the systems that already existed. Seeing where they held and where they strained. Learning names. Learning rhythms. Learning the difference between what looks good on paper and what actually survives a long shift.
    There were days that tested me. Not because the work was unfamiliar, but because leadership asks more than competence. It asks restraint. It asks patience. It asks you to stand still long enough to see clearly before you move.
    I learned quickly that trust doesn’t come from announcements. It comes from showing up again the next day. From doing what you said you would do. From being present when it would be easier to delegate and disappear.
    Some days felt heavy. Some days felt encouraging. Most days felt real.
    What surprised me most was how much growth happens quietly. In small adjustments. In conversations that never make it to a meeting recap. In moments where you choose to respond instead of react. Lead instead of impress.
    One hundred days in, I don’t feel finished. I feel rooted.
    Rooted in the responsibility. Rooted in the people. Rooted in the understanding that progress in a place like this isn’t fast, but it’s meaningful when it’s done right.
    These last hundred days reminded me why I do this work. Not for the position, but for the impact. Not for recognition, but for stewardship. Not to be seen, but to make sure others are supported in being seen.
    This chapter hasn’t been about arrival. It’s been about alignment.
    And I’m still climbing.

    This Is What Growth Feels Like!